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The New Love · Session 6
A New Relationship with You
With Master Anna, channeled by John McCurdy
I am that I am!
Master Anna, of Magical Service.
Welcome back, dear friends!
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So, what is the solution to the shame?
It is love. Who would have guessed? You had no idea when you began this journey, but the solution is love. Love for you.
Well, it's easy to talk about self-love, but it is not so easy to do it.
All love begins with a relationship. You meet someone and you feel something. A remembrance, a connection with your own soul, because, well, that is who they are. At least it is who the avatar that you see is. It is your own creation. It is part of you.
So you feel something, and your brain floods your body with all these beautiful hormones (drugs), and you feel ‘in love.’
Then you begin to create a relationship with that person. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't, but that is where you find real love. Sometimes.
So, self-love.
Self-love is the key to everything, as we've already discussed. It is the one and only solution to the shame, and the shame is the cause of everything you don't like in your life. So, how do you love yourself?
Well, it begins with creating a relationship with yourself.
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So, let's take a moment and feel into your own relationship with yourself.
Do you even have one? Or have you been running from it for a very long time?
Oh, you do have a relationship with yourself, because you can't help it. But most people have been running from that relationship for a very long time. They are terrified of it and they do not want to see themselves.
That is one reason that... Oh, people talk about twin flames, like two halves or two parts of a soul, coming in at the same time and finding each other. And it doesn't work that way. In fact, as your soul, you go to great pains to make sure that your various incarnations are in different parts of the time frame, especially now, so that there is no chance of you meeting. Because when it has happened—and it has occasionally—that someone has met another incarnation of themselves living on Earth, it hasn't gone well.
You do not like to look at yourself, because when you do you see the darkness. You see all those things about yourself that you are terrified of, and they see all those things in you. And it becomes very, very confusing and very distracting. And so, anyone who has been human for very long, for very many lifetimes, avoids that at all costs.
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But now it is time to change that. Oh, not so you can bring another incarnation here to be your lover, for that would still be confusing. No, you are bringing all these parts of you together in a different way.
Actually, it is not you the human that is doing it. It is your soul, bringing them all home. Every lifetime you have ever lived is out there. You could say it's... Well, the truth is they are all happening right now, because time is an illusion. And as you have woken up, they have begun to wake up. As you allow yourself to come home to your soul, which is right here inside of you, they too are coming home to Soul, right here inside of you.
Oh, you are so much bigger than this human body! But every part of you is coming home, and it is time to start creating a conscious, loving relationship with yourself. Otherwise you won't survive it. You won't survive the chaos of all of you coming home.
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You need to understand that this is a natural process. It is happening. Your soul has realized that the time is here, and it is time to bring this all together. And so it is happening. But for you the human, as the one designated to take point, you could say, in this process, there is a lot that you can do to make it easier. And it starts with consciously building the relationship with you.
Now, think about what happens when you come together with another human: You begin to build a relationship. No matter how long it lasts, you have to start with building a relationship, with getting to know each other at a deep level. And if you don't, they are not going to be around very long.
So you have to start getting to know each other. You have to start caring about each other. That is mostly natural, but it's also a choice that says, “I am going to do this with this person. I am going to love this person.”
And it goes deeper. You begin to touch each other. You begin to do things together. And at some point, you make love to each other. Beautiful, beautiful things! And if you are lucky, and if you put the intention and the effort into it, the relationship can last a long time.
But every relationship with another person eventually ends. It might be when you get angry at each other and can't get along anymore, or it might be when one of you dies, but eventually it comes to an end.
But there is one relationship that can be far more fulfilling than any relationship with another person, and that will never end. Oh, you can run from it, as you have been for a very long time, but it still won't end. And that is the relationship with you.
And it works pretty much the same way. First, you need to let yourself see yourself, so that you can begin to get acquainted with you.
Most humans on this planet have no idea who they are, and they really don't want to know. They are happy walking around, mostly asleep, going through their sleepwalking lifetimes, because there is so much shame in there and they do not want to see themselves.
And there is a part of you that does not want to see yourself, that would rather hide it away from yourself. But at this point in your journey, that will rip you apart.
You already feel it happening. The changes in your body, the aches and pains, the confusion, your mind isn't working the way it used to. Oh, so much chaos in your life and in the world around you! So it is time to see yourself, to feel yourself, and oh, that is hard for the human.
But there is a part of you that sees you. We call it your soul.
Oh, there are many, many different definitions for soul, and all the different dimensions and levels of soul. Whatever. For us, soul is simply... Well, it's your divinity. It is everything that you are that is outside the normal awareness of the human you. It is your essence, and Soul sees you.
You see, it was only a part of you that went on that journey at the very beginning and said, “I am going to dive into experience and I am going to find out who I am, and who we together are!”
And that other part of you stayed behind and said, “I'll be here. I'll hold the cord, so to speak, so that you can't get lost. And I will hold those things that you can't stand about yourself, so that you can have your journey and have your experiences. So that together we come to know who we are, and we come to a new wisdom.”
So, the time has come. That part of you went to sleep in a sense, so that she could be present. Oh, but you had to create this veil between you so that she wouldn't distract you. So, in a sense she went to sleep, and she has been collecting the wisdom from all of your experiences. But now it is time, and she has woken up.
That is what was truly happening, as you found yourself waking up fairly recently. As you found yourself becoming aware of so much more than the human you. That was your soul waking up.
You thought it was on you, the human, to wake up. No, it was your soul.
And now it is time to look through your soul's eyes.
Oh, it is time to create this relationship with your soul, but we hesitate to talk about it that way because your soul is you. But it's okay, because what we are really talking about is the relationship with you. And it starts with the relationship with your soul, with recognizing that your soul is here, that it is you, and that you truly are divinity itself.
You truly are so much more than this human, and it is you. And, with a simple shift in perspective you can begin to see yourself the way your soul sees you. You can see through her eyes.
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And when you look through her eyes at yourself, you will find so much wonder there. So much beauty.
Your soul does not judge you. Your soul is so thrilled with what you have done, with all of the experiences that you have lived through and all of the wisdom that comes from those experiences!
It never mattered to your soul if you got it right or wrong. There is no such thing to soul! There is just experience.
It never mattered if you failed. There is no such thing for soul. No matter what the outcome of an experience is, it is full of wisdom! And that is what matters.
You have never failed!
Oh, you judge yourself because you know you have hurt people in the past, even in this lifetime. But your soul understands that no, you have not. You have never truly hurt another, because it is impossible!
And you have never been hurt by another, because that is also impossible.
Oh, you have felt things. You have felt that shame. You have felt the pain of betrayal. And oh, that piled on more shame and more shame! And that shame hurts, but even that is not permanent. It is just an experience.
And every one of those pains was just an experience.
You are eternal. You exist, and that cannot change.
And yes, sometimes life hurts! That’s just the way it is, because it is part of the experience. But you have never truly been hurt.
And now, as you bring all of you home, as you welcome home all of that shame, oh, it transforms. Your soul breathes it in, and it distills the wisdom from it. And oh, that is priceless!
You might think all of that shame is such a bad thing, but no. It is full of wisdom! And now it is time to claim that.
So, now it is time to look at yourself through your soul's eyes, and to let in the love of your soul.
Oh, your soul didn't know what that meant until recently. But over the last few thousand years and many lifetimes, you have taught your soul what love is. Your soul has experienced it through you, and now, it brings that love back to you.
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Take a moment and feel your soul.
Feel its love for you.
Feel how it adores you.
Feel how thrilled it is at the journey you have taken, at the wisdom that has come from it.
Oh, the human might not be able to identify with that wisdom right away. But it is there, nonetheless.
Feel it.
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A soft warmth.
Your soul's love.
Your soul's wisdom.
It's here now, and it is yours.
Let it fill you.
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The human gets afraid that it is going to become egotistical or abusive, because that is what you have been taught happens when you love yourself. What a lie!
What an absolute lie! For that is not how it works at all.
When you let in that love for you, oh, not only does it fill you, but it radiates out from you in true love, true compassion for the people around you.
Not the needy kind of love that needs to get something from them, that has a big hole to fill. No, this love, this self-love, it fills that hole. It satisfies the hunger of that shame, and then it radiates out to everyone around you.
That doesn't mean you are suddenly going to like everyone around you. It doesn't mean you won't have to establish boundaries here and there for those who insist on trying to feed on you. But you'll do it from love, rather than from fear and hate and shame.
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So feel.
Feel your soul's love.
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Now, there are some things that you, the human, can do to help this process along.
Oh, the human is afraid it won't get that right, for it thinks it has gotten so much else wrong!
No, let that go.
You cannot get it wrong!
You have never gotten anything wrong!
Ha! Except for sometimes you failed to fulfill the agendas that you the human have. Well, that is part of what Earth is about. That is just how it works here, so let it go.
Your soul is in charge here, and this process is happening.
Even if you were to check out now and decide it's too much for you, and just go home, some other of your incarnations would take over whatever is unfinished here. And it is still you, so you cannot fail!
And there are some things that can make it easier and more real for you, and that can change your life into a life of magic and beauty.
It begins with building that relationship with you.
How do you build a relationship with another?
You listen to them. And so here, you listen to you.
You let yourself see you.
You feel your feelings, and your emotions.
Oh, humans try so hard to run away from those! They shame you for crying, but crying is one of the most beautiful release mechanisms you have. It is important to cry sometimes when you feel it, and it doesn't mean you are weak. It means you are wise. It means you are stronger than anybody else, because they are all running in fear from their emotions.
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When you are in love with someone, you touch them. Whether it's a friend and you just shake hands and hug each other now and then, or whether it's a lover where you really touch each other, and hold each other, and make love to each other in the most intimate ways possible. That is building a relationship.
Oh, it can be many other things too, but you know the difference.
So, what if you were to do that with yourself?
What if you were to touch yourself?
To hold yourself?
To caress yourself?
Maybe even to make love to yourself?
There is nothing wrong with having sex with yourself. Oh, even that has been so shamed, and it is time to let that go.
One thing we would ask is, when you are consciously loving yourself, make it about you. Not someone else, not some fantasy.
Those are fine too, and you can have fun with those. You can allow yourself to have those. But at least sometimes, keep it all about you.
If you don't succeed in having an orgasm, or whatever, that is okay. It is not about that.
It is about being with you.
It is about loving you.
It is about treating you the way you would treat the lover that you long for.
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And at some point, you will find that lover inside of you.
And then, who knows? They might show up on the outside also, a reflection of that love. Not another half of you, because you are whole and complete, but another person who reflects that inner love.
You see, a fact of creation is that everything outside of you reflects your inner journey, your inner imagination. It is not even outside of you. It is your soul's imagination, but it seems outside of you and it is all a reflection of what is inside of you.
So if you are lost in shame and self-loathing, you are going to attract people into your life that reflect that to you, in many different ways. Some that actually feed on that.
When you start to love yourself, oh, that radiates out into your creation and you begin to attract people who reflect that.
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So, take time to be with you, to listen to you, to touch you, however you want.
There are no rules.
Just make it about you.
Make it about loving you.
Make it about building this relationship with you.
Even if your mind goes, “I don't know what this is about. I don't even know what that means to build a relationship with me!”
Oh, be still, mind. Let's just be with this. Let's go with this and see what happens.
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Now, another really important thing we've touched on earlier: Pay attention to how you talk to yourself.
And this is a big one, a really big one.
Observe your self-talk and ask yourself, what would happen if I talked like this to my friend or my lover?
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It probably wouldn't go very well.
So, there is only one solution here, and that is a commitment to yourself. A choice and a commitment.
That self-talk is not going to change by itself. Not during your lifetime. At some point maybe your soul will reach a point where, in another lifetime, it will be a little different. But we wouldn't count on that, because this is something the human has to choose.
It is a commitment the human has to make, and that commitment is, I am going to be nice to myself.
Oh, you have spent your life being nice to everyone around you, at the expense of yourself. Now it is time to turn that around.
That does not mean being mean to them. That is not the point.
It is about being nice to you. About treating yourself with respect. With honor.
No matter what stories your mind tells you about what a failure you are, or how bad you are, how ashamed you are, it is a choice to say:
I love me.
I am okay.
In all of these things and all of these fears and all of these dramas and whatever it is I am feeling, I AM OKAY!
Because I have me, and I have my soul.
You might not even feel like you have your soul in that moment, but what do you think your soul is?
It is you! It can't go anywhere. It is always there!
Oh, people feel it ‘not there’ and they believe that is true, instead of coming back to the knowing that it is there and that no matter what they are feeling, it is there and it does love them!
And choosing that truth over the emotions does not mean the emotions will immediately dissolve away. But when you choose that truth—that your soul is right here, and it loves you right now no matter what you are feeling—then IT IS SO!
And that is self-love.
And then you hear yourself belittling yourself. Oh, you do it all the time! You know you do. Constantly belittling yourself, shaming yourself for what you see as your failures, shaming yourself for...
Oh, as you have woken up and realized that you are the creator of your life, you shame yourself even more. “Why did I create this? Why did I create that?” And then that goes out and hits everybody else, and they get pissed off, and oh, it makes life a mess!
So, are you ready to start honoring yourself?
To start respecting yourself?
To start treating yourself with compassion?
To start accepting every part of you?
Because that is self-love, and that will change your life.
Oh, it's a challenge. It will take time, and we don't want you shaming yourself when you feel like you are failing at it.
No, you just stop. You take a breath. You smile and you say, “You know what, dear self? We are okay. You are okay. I am okay. And soul loves us.”
That’s all.
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When you catch yourself belittling yourself or shaming yourself, you don't pile on more shame.
You just stop, and you turn it around, and you say:
No, I am beautiful! I am amazing! And I deserve my own respect and my own love, so that is what I am going to start giving myself!
You make that commitment, that choice and that commitment, and you keep coming back to it every day.
It's a journey. It takes some time to change any habit. But you keep coming back to it.
You CAN change it, and don't let any part of you tell you otherwise!
You CAN change that habit of belittling yourself.
You absolutely can!
You just make the choice, you make the commitment, and you keep coming back to it.
And whenever you find yourself belittling yourself, you turn it around and you give yourself some love, some words of love, some words of encouragement.
That will change your life.
That, and making love to yourself.
Oh, making love isn't all about sex. You know that.
It is about holding yourself, and loving yourself, and caressing yourself, and treating yourself kindly and with honor and respect.
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That will change your life. It will change your perspective. It will open you up to your soul, to the awareness of your soul in your life.
It will open the door to magic like you have never experienced.
And you will discover, as John can tell you, that it becomes like a ground underneath you. And as you go through life—which will always be chaotic as long as you are in a human body, because that is how Earth was designed—as you go through life, through the chaos and the occasional pains and frustrations and all of these things, you will find that ground of self-love and of true joy, underneath all of it.
And even in the midst of the chaos and the pain, you will always be able to come back to that ground. And oh, that makes for such a different life! Such a beautiful life!
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So, let's take a moment.
Wrap your arms around yourself.
Feel them as your soul's arms.
Feel as your soul wraps its arms around you through your arms.
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The next time you look in a mirror, see your soul in the mirror.
It's right there. It's always right there! It's just a little change of perception.
And then shift again and look through your soul's eyes into the human in the mirror.
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Feel the love, the love for you from your soul.
Oh, your soul loves you so much!
And through you, it loves itself so much.
And because of that it is able to bring home all of these other facets of you, all of these other lifetimes, and all of the many, many, many aspects they created. And all of the aspects and facets from before you ever came to Earth.
Because of you, and your choice to love yourself, your soul can bring all of that together and bring all of you home!
And you are going to begin to feel that, in ways you never imagined before.
You are going to find that self-love permeating every part of your life.
You are going to find the people in your life changing, either leaving your life or changing the way they relate to you.
You are going to find new people coming into your life that surprise and delight you, because they too are learning to love themselves.
John and Romana have been talking about doing a class on relationships, and we may do that one day. But there’s really only one thing to say, and that is:
Make your relationship with YOU the primary relationship in your life, and nurture that relationship like you would with a lover.
And then you will find the other relationships in your life, the beautiful relationships, transforming and clarifying. And if they are still appropriate for you, you will discover relationships with others that go beyond what you ever imagined.
Because from that place of self-love the shame goes away, and the hunger of that shame no longer drives your life. And that opens the door for a real relationship with other people, a relationship that is based on who you are rather than on your mutual shame. And that is so beautiful, so amazing, and so wonderful!
So, thank you for being here!
And we wish you the best. The best love ever!
The love for you.
And so it is.
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